buyakasha:

you know what sucks about having a childhood full of bullying? you grow up and every piece of media tells you that kids who were bullied become better, they become kinder, and they forgive the people who did them wrong because it’s what the bigger person does. but in most cases, that’s not true. they actually grow up bitter, and hold grudges, and might forgive, but never forget. the bullies are probably living life as well as they can, remembering their earlier days fondly, hopefully successful and happy. while the bullied carry the memories, don’t trust easily, and can rarely completely let go of that dislike of themselves someone put into them